My Declaration of Independence: The Making of an Independent Woman

Posted by Lady Mel On Thursday, December 31, 2009 3 comments

I have a habit for not abiding by my past New Years resolutions because I did not have the will power. But this time I am sticking to this one. No one waiting. No more excuses. 2010 is my time to shine and I will certainly do that. These are the things that I will aim for the new year. Reinvention is the new black.


1. I Am Going to Do Me: This is the most important goal on my list. I have to think for myself for no more. I am not going to rely on my parents for advice. I am shredding all the emotional drama and baggage NOW. 2010 is the year that I will embark on my independence. I want to be free from all the negativity and codependency in my life. 

And no one is going to stop me. I am indestructible. I am going to set my future on my own terms. I am going to ignore all the drama, even if my parents start it. I will start with a new slate. But seeking this independence is a declaration. How will I accomplish it? Freedom has no merit unless you strongly desire for a change. So here is what I am going to do.

2. Network, Network, Network: Since I graduated in May, I have been cooped up in my parents' house, applying to dozen of jobs and internships online without any success and wasting my life away. I know my self worth. I know what I am capable of accomplishing and I know what I am yet to be capable of. I now know that despite the rejection, I know that I am a better person for the dream, despite the lack of preliminary and follow-up interviews. I am sick and tired of just using one outlet (the Internet) to search for work. Starting now, I will take the initiative in networking and schmoozing with Smith alumnae, friends, and assocates to expand my personal brand. As one associate told me this past Tuesday, when you are out there in the real world, "it is not what you know, it is who you know." And I have finally come to that conclusion. So, my goal is to network with the people that I know with confidence and control to find the internship, full-time job, or volunteer work that I want.  

3. Earn My Financial Independence: I had some time to think about this. When I find my first post-career job, I will start earning the money and job experience that I need to get the dream job. Financial independence is the key to leaving my parents' home and asserting yourself as an adult. I hope to earn and save enough money to pay off my college loans and to rent my first apartment by September 2010.

4. Being More Flexible: I am a flexible person. But being the fickle person that I am, when I am determined to do something, I become inflexible and stubborn. I hope to be more open-minded and flexible when it comes to my career path. As of now, I have branched my career options from online media to include other forms of technology: editorial, blogging, user experience, and IT development. But I have to always remember that there is a possibility that online media may not be my calling in my life. People change careers all the time so when I get into the workforce, I will be expose to all areas of the Internet business and corporate America, even the areas that I initially thought were not compatible to my likings and needs.

5. Keeping the Body Whole: Exercising is the hardest task for me to do because I love food. But with my optimistic, positive outlook on my job search and life, I have to keep the body as spiritual and natural as possible. So, I have to reinvent myself more spiritually from the inside out. I aim to drink more water each day, go to the gym at least once or twice a week and/or exercise at home, eat more fruits and vegetables, and develop a normal sleeping schedule. Since I have no job, my sleeping pattern has become imbalanced. Currently, I sleep during the day and wake up during the night. I have to reverse that pattern, especially when I plan on getting a job and feeling my best.

6. Fun, Fun, Fun: I have to reconnect with friends. Since I was in high school, I made friends but conditioned myself to not contact them for some reason. But with this new me, I have to redevelop my social life and reconnect with friends and make new ones. I am that confident and witty woman, now I need to show that to the world and the skeptics and have a great time outside the house. If exercising is the hardest task, having fun is probably the second because I do not do the whole club scene. So, I hope to live the young, exciting Sex in the City life before they  all got married and had children. I am the Carrie and Samantha of my time. And that's awesome.

This is my New Years Resolution. I will follow this resolution to the core. If I don't, I am done for. What is yours like?

3 comments:

Kittie Howard said...

Nicely articulated. If you stick to your resolutions, I'm sure you will accomplish your goals. There's nothing wrong with changing career patterns...and MUCH is to be gained from networking...I saw a sign on one of those cutsie little stones in a store: If you want to know your future, create it. And, I think, all these years later, that's about as truthful as it gets. Good Luck! And keep us posted on how all is going!! Hugs!

LadyGaga said...

thank you so much :D

Happy New Years :D!

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